Well I have moved out. Hanging at a friends place until I can get my own place. Not sure what to do with mortgage and all that practical stuff. I’ll just have to keep on paying. Boy I am paying.
It was all very adult. My wife understood the need for a separation. I wasn’t really there and she is trying figure out what she wants too.
The other I believe is over. I haven’t talked to her and she hasn’t tried to talk to me. There were few red flags around that relationship, so I don’t feel too bad about it, but I really feel for her hard and it’s tough
You guys are going to kill me……So I was feeling a bit down and went out to friends on Sat. than out to a bar to drown my sorrows a bit. There was this girl there playing guitar and singing songs. She was looking at me all night. She came over and talked to me during her break and she wanted me to hang until she finished. Ended up at her place that night, but nothing happened but a bit of kissing. Kinda felt good no strings or emotions and got my mind of things. She’s a cool chick. Don’t know what this all means except to prove how messed-up I am and that I really don’t know what the hell I am doing!
All in all I feel good that I have done the right thing all-round and don’t have that weight on my chest anymore. I can breathe a bit. Now if I could just stop day dreaming about the other. I even changed the stations on my radio to listen to love songs. Scary!!!!!!!! What’s up with that?
Ok little secret you might not know about Ranna! The first thing that I did when my marriage ended was go out and have a one night stand. He is now one of my closest friends! I dont know how that happened but he is! It’s normal to still think about the other man. Just know what your limits with her are and KEEP THEM! Also very normal to go out seeking when a relationship comes to an end. We’ve all done it! Hell I still do it when I’m DRINKING! God but i do get friendly when i drink.
I’m actually quite proud of you for getting to this point. Your doing great!!!!! Here if you need me!
*”It’s normal to still think about the other man.”
I didnt mean the other MAN, i was calling you MAN! It’s one of my words. So is dude, and buddy. As well as Spankin ( no i dont mean i want one, it means good) and Kick Ass! HA HA HA HA
Whew! Other man. I’m not that F’d up. haha
It’s just seems like some crazy shit is happening right now. What’s up with the universe?
How you hanging in? Thanks. I’m kinda proud of myself too, although I’m hanging by a thread.
Wow, you’ve taken the plunge…
Yah, I’m with Ranna on all of that. It’s pretty normal to hook up with someone after a break up. We have all done it.
I think you’ll feel like you’re hanging by a thread for a while and it may get worse before it gets better…
You’ve always got this space to vent
it’s normal. it’ll take time to move on, you just have to allow yourself the time to in essence ‘grieve’ it all and let it go. good luck! and blogging always helps too!
Thanks for the kind words.
Hey man, I’m doing ok. Things are not as I wish them to be right now, and My love life is pretty um…….F@#$ED UP, but that is a whole nother story! The universe is prolly turning backwards on it’s axis or some crap. Hell I don’t know. I’m hurt and Angry and GRRRRRR!!!!! I need some Southern Comfort to drink, but OH WAIT!! YOU CHUGGED IT ALL!! LOL! Check your email love!
HIGH FREAKIN’ FIVE ALL OVER THE BOARD ON THIS ONE MAN!
It was a huge step for you to have the talk and to move out. Told you she was most likly just as confused as you are.
And for the hook up! TRIPLE HIGH FREAKIN’ FIVE!!!! Do not feel guilty! Just as Vanessa and Ranna have said, we all have been there and done that, and some of us multiple times.
NOT ME THOUGH! 
NEVER! 
NOPE! 
NOT I! Just saying. 
And the fact that she is a cool chic, no strings attached, no emotions….even better!
sorry for the delay of my comment. I’ve been MIA because I’ve made the mistake and “fallen off the wagon” with an ex of mine. NOT GOOD! I’m sure you will read it on a blog soon!
As always – here for ya!