I find myself in the most undesirable situation. Because of it’s nature I can turn to any of my friends for advice or just to get things off my chest.
Here it goes….. it’s gets a bit complicated.
I was married in 2005 to a great girl. Smart, funny, together, loves me. Unfortunately without even looking I fell in love with someone else. It’s not just lust. It’s heads-over-heels, lightening strike, where have you been all my life type of thing for both of us.
Everyday is so painful for me. Of course there is the guilt of what I am doing to my wife. The other girl is also married, but separated and has just started a new relationship, so she is lying also.
I don’t know what in the hell to do! The girl I am seeing is not to happy about our situation and says it should end, it’s obviously a bad thing we are doing, but it seem neither of us can walk-away.
I can’t image hurting my wife and I can’t image letting the potential love of my life go?
Right now I am going through of phase of not talking or meeting the other girl and it’s killing me. It’s only been 3 days.
Well, here’s the thing. You obviously don’t realize that you have already hurt your wife. The attention that should be given to her, you gave to another. The only thing about cheating is not only are you cheating your wife, you are cheating everyone around you. I do hope that you do not have children. It is always the hardest on them. I know, I have been there. My EX-Husband cheated on me several times through the course of our 11year marriage. I had no idea, but let me tell you this, no matter how long he waited to tell me, it still hurt just as much. I was devestaded. And the one that you are cheating with, if she will cheat with you dear, she will cheat on you. That is simply the rule of the game. Now the question remains, do you LOVE your wife. Truly and deeply LOVE her? If you do, then my advice to you is to end this affair, straighten your life up, AND NEVER EVER TELL HER!! Sometimes things are best left unsaid. It would hurt her deeply and if you plan to NEVER NEVER NEVER do this again, then just let it be laid to rest. However, if you are going to continue on with this, then you should take the same advice you gave me on my blog, cut your wife loose before it becomes harder to do so.